Divorce Chart

If you are like most people, you are visual learner.  Being a visual learner simply means you like to ‘visualize’ new information in order to better understand the concept.  Being a visual learner also means that you benefit from viewing charts and graphs like the one provided below by Wagoner Family Lawyer Matt Ingham.

In the chart below, you will see ‘five steps’ for moving forward with your divorce.  You should review the chart below thoroughly and take notes, writing down each one of the five steps.  If you prefer, you can simply take a photo of the chart below and store it in your cell phone.  By doing so, you will be able to occasionally pull up the chart in order to gauge the forward progress of your case.

The five steps are easy to apply once you have made up your mind that divorce is the right move for you.  What is not easy though is ‘making up your mind’.  Here at Bulldog Divorce we strongly encourage you to work on your marriage before moving forward with divorce.  Here at Bulldog Divorce we strongly encourage you to do everything reasonably within your power to heal your marriage.  After you have tried everything reasonable, if your conscience is still telling you to move forward with divorce, then at that time we strongly encourage you to move forward with divorce.

As you see the chart below appears in the middle of this web page for your review.  Further, beneath the chart we have provided a brief description of each one of the five steps.  It is advised that you thoroughly review the chart and read the description below.  Once you have done so, it is further advised that you proceed with your divorce accordingly.


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Step One: Making The Hard Decision.  Just like we explained above, when applying step number one, Wagoner Family Lawyer Matt Ingham strongly advises that you listen to your conscience.  If your conscience is telling you to continue to work on your marriage, then you should do so…you should make another attempt and should probably try couple’s counseling together.  If the thought of attending counseling makes you uncomfortable, then you should attend church together or participate in other activities together as a couple.  On the other hand, if you are reading this article and you have peace of mind knowing that divorce is right for you, then it is advised that you move forward with your case.

Step Two: Talk It Over.  Before you jump headlong into the divorce process, it is advised that you talk things over first.  Each one of us has close family members or close friends who we know and trust.  Over the years, we have learned to trust those family and friends and we have learned to lean on them during hard times.  Divorce IS one of those hard times.  It is advised that during this process you should rely on your close ones and thoroughly discuss your situation with them.  When you discuss it with them, ask them to be ‘brutally honest’ with you about your looming divorce.  Remember, just as Solomon stated thousands of years of ago in the book of Proverbs:

“Where there is no guidance the people fall, but in an abundance of counselors there is victory.” – Proverbs 11:14

Step Three: Plan Ahead.  Do you remember the old adage, ‘He who fails to plan, plans to fail’ ?  That old adage applies to life in general, but it also applies to your divorce case.  Wagoner Family Lawyer Matt Ingham advises that you avoid ‘diving headlong’ into the divorce process.  In other words, divorce is not something that you jump into without planning ahead.

All that being said, when you begin planning your divorce, it is advised that you think in terms of logistics, practicality, and money.  In order to help you along in the planning process, you can simply ask yourself the following questions:

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  • Where will I live once my spouse and I separate?
  • Will I be able to afford to live there?
  • Will I be comfortable living there?
  • Is it practical for me to live there?

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  • What will I drive once my spouse and I separate?
  • Is that vehicle reliable transportation?
  • Can I afford that vehicle?
  • Is that vehicle comfortable for me?

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  • Can I afford to pay my monthly bills during divorce?
  • How much money will I earn each month?
  • How much will my bills cost each month?
  • Can I afford to file for divorce?

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Step Four.  Consult With A Wagoner Family Lawyer.  There are a lot of lawyers in Northeast Oklahoma.  There are a lot of lawyers who dabble in family law, but are not serious about it.  Before you begin consulting with lawyers, it is advised that you do some google research and find a handful of them who focus entirely on the areas of family law.  Once you have narrowed down your search, it is advised that you consult with two or three of them in order to find one who is a good fit for you.

Step Five. File The Divorce Paperwork.  This step is a lot easier to complete when you have hired a Wagoner Family Lawyer to represent you.  This step requires you or your legal counsel to initiate the legal process at the Wagoner Court House.  Once your divorce paperwork is filed, your case will be underway.

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Bulldog Divorce has helped several hundred clients in the areas of family law over the years. Family law includes divorce, child custody, guardianships, child support, protective orders and so on. If you are reading this article and you need to speak with Lawyer Matt Ingham, you can call his office to schedule a free phone consultation.